Monthly Archives: December 2011

How Facebook Makes Us Go from John Doe to Justin Bieber!!

This is not intended for the passive Facebook user or the professional user. This article is about the rarest of Facebook breeds. The ones hidden deep in the trenches of locked up bedrooms covered in music posters and pink polka dots and basements with hundreds of thousands of mint condition comics. Yes, the truest of Facebook users, the Facebook Addict!

The most refined addict is very much aware of their actions and behaviors but there are some of us that are sub-consciously brainwashed by the ultimate social network that we don’t even realize we have hit that status.

Time to wake up, smell the pokes, the uploads, the status updates, the friend lists, the stalking and the narcissistic real time comment responses and see what is right in front of you.

A Facebook addict generally has one main weapon, the smartphone. With its ability to be mobile, take instant pictures and video and upload faster than a speeding bullet, this tool is the weapon of choice. Whether it is an IPhone, Droid or…wait are there any others, is a personal preference.

We all know the Dark Knight has an IPhone.

We are all envious of celebrities. We look to the tabloids, fashion and entertainment magazines, paparazzi shots and flock to download the music or see movies. We all want the “Rock Star” lifestyle. Now we can have it.

The number one reason Facebook can take a John/Jane Doe and make them a Justin Bieber or Adele is “Instant Celebrity Status”. If you go to a blowout party, hike a mountain, finish a marathon or come up with a life changing affirmation, you can now provide the details through a choice of media solutions (video, picture, words) instantly to your profile so all your friends and acquaintances can live vicariously through you. If you are sitting at home one evening and you see what all your friends are doing on the social circuit, there is a little bit of jealously running through those veins. We are now celebrities with just a simple click.

Frequency of check ins enhances our celebrity status by showing your circle of social life what a public butterfly you can be.

Comments are the key. What is the point of a status update if no one acknowledges it. We want everyone to comment. Even if it is only a virtual friend whom you have never spoken to. They count. They ramp up your popularity numbers. Look at Klout! Does anyone know what it all means? No, but we still strive to increase our Klout score.

Unlike real celebrities, we are in control of our image. There are no paparazzi around but we do have to keep our eyes open for wandering smartphones who could capture our image at the blink of an eye. If we take a shot that does not get approved by the board of “You”, it can be deleted for a better shot.

You have the ability to set marketing trends. When you try on outfits or buy a new car, ask your friends what they think. Planting these images in their heads will sent subliminal messages and give you the unspoken credit for marketing/promotion.

We are moving toward making therapists extinct, except for Los Angeles. It is just plain trendy out there. If we get dumped or suffer from the loss of a loved one, we pour our emotions out. People flock to provide advice and sympathy. Though not professional, it is the multitude of comments that helps us feel a little better about our situations. Those many profiles of deceased are kept open as memorials so that we can continue to reach out as if they are still beside us in their earthly state.

The most important thing to look for in a Facebook Addict is instant gratification. How quickly do they partake in an activity or event and get that shots/video up on Facebook? Is it a few weeks, a few days, or a few minutes? The quicker the upload, the more critical the addiction status. They also expect the comments to come flying in rather quickly as well.

We all want to be liked. We all want to feel loved and wanted. We all want the appreciation of feeling like a celebrity.

Facebook may have began as a site to rate the looks of students, but has created a culture shifting from 15 minutes of fame to instant celebrity status.

So to all the Facebook addicts, get out there and embrace life. Live it to the fullest but make sure you document every second. It is not enough to scale the Grand Canyon or surf Maui anymore. We are all a part of the Truman Show.

Lights, camera, action.


Deep in Her Eyes – Original Poem

No one knows what it’s like to see the world through your eyes.
Your tired eyes, worn from life’s trials

It is in those eyes that I see life in all it’s majesty and beauty
A lover with the skin of a warrior
Fierce, but gentle

In all your weariness, a glimmer of hope for the true vision to arrive and welcome you into a home of solitude and warmth

It is dark now
A stillness has chilled the night air
You can hear your past hidden in the shadow, laughing at the power it has encompassed over the vulnerability time has presented

Now is the time to look beyond the darkness
A light has cast an incandescence of exclusionary love

A sentimental crush waiting patiently for your time
Now he extends his arms with selfless passion to you

His world is sacrificed to heal your wounded spirit

Now together a new path is drawn with unknown expectations but a promise of a continued brightness


A Passing Love – Original Poem

Like the shadows creeping up in the distance, I will always be by your side
My body may be gone, but this spirit rests inside your restless heart

It is the gift of life in death that keeps my memory alive
It is you that bears the torch
It illuminates the courage I could not express to you
It fuels the flame of a passion so intense that the wetness of my lips on yours can still be felt

Now you must rest and hold me close
Each memory a bed time story as you dream of a time when we both fell from the clouds and landed in the womb of a divine love

You can hear me in the wind
Whispering soft nothings in you ear and touching your velvety skin with the breast strokes of a brush resting on the canvas of life

Now the future is before you.
You are not alone
I am always close caressing your body with the embodiment of heaven’s assistance

Look to the stars for light, the sun for guidance and our love for safety

Don’t ever forget for I am not gone but a partner in your continuing journey


Empty Promise – Original Poem

The countless words of soothing refreshment
The fervor of hearing the sounds of affirmation putting me in a place of safety and comfort

It is in this womb I look to you
A pact of blood now dripping to the curbside as the only image I see is a reflection in the darkness

I am trapped in this cell, sentenced to a lifetime of hurt for a broken vow never spoken from my mouth

A document sworn on by the testimony of your heart was the gift I awaited my entire life.
To hear, to feel, to experience that covenant in your arms

Now it is gone
A lie wrapped in an empty promise

Were your words of silence a ruse?
A clever game or a masquerade to mystify my senses

Now the words are gone
I am alone but each sound continues to echo inside my head
A slow and waning torture getting louder with each passing second

When will it end

The promises
The lies
The emotional damage

I look to the outside as my body deteriorates in this abandoned chamber of solitude
Drenched in a pool of betrayal


The Cure – Original Poem

You are the medicine that cures the disease
A warm savory antidote to the poison that is incurable passion

With a warm bowl of sultry wet fierce red blend, the body is covered from head to toe with the heat of the elixir

Feel its penetration through the pores into the veins rushing through the body
A burst of endurance awakes the hibernating spirits from within

It feels the heart with rage and awakens a numbness that has clustered the senses for too long

Now in you I see the answers
In you, I feel once again
In you, I breath a new tomorrow

I saw you today, a shadow of my past and a fixture of my future. It is the unknown darkness that brings out the light and guides me to your illumination that is my earthly savior

In a pronounced statement from the high prophets of the new world order a king and queen are crowned and a new freedom doctrine is published

It is today that society rests in peace, law is a myth and love is the guidance of expression

You and I will reign in this new civilization
With a staff and a bow we release free reign on the people to love

It is through us that we will be
Not in words
Not in actions

In a legacy that starts with a kiss


Hibernation – Original Poem

Our friendship took a back seat on that fateful day
The haunting stillness in the air freed the angels of death to reign on the broken bond that was once bound in blood

With one final glance you disappeared into the fog of a clear blue sky
Only memories remain
Darker and darker with each passing day

The thought of long auburn hair blowing in the wind
The touch of you fingers on my face one last time
The sight of the blue in your eyes soothing my failing youth

It was a time of yesteryear
A time of innocence
A time of comfort where the words from your heart warmed my senses

Each day, thoughts shared without a spoken word
Moments of reflection became a symphony of bliss

A force guided us home when lonely was our only friend
A stronger force showered away the laughter and broke the chain

Now, time is the enemy as I prepare to look into my past
It is you that forever remains in the hourglass of time drawing sand to the ground leaving our memories behind

Is this regret or a new beginning?


I Never Believed Until I Believed – Original Poem by Raquel Avila

I never believed
my soul could sing her heart out to you
and not be heard.

I never believed
in fairy tales or in promises come true
until the sunset you said “I do.”

I never believed
what others whispered about
how you treated me in vain.

I never believed
an instant love you felt
became the truth of a thousand lies.

I never believed
a man who asserted his love
just as easily let it die.

I never believed
you loved me so tenderly so early
but did nothing to keep your word.

I never believed
your mesmerizing eyes and smilling face
could be the source of so much pain.

I never believed
in the darkest days, I looked to you..
for my companion, for my friend.

I never believed
I could seek a lover’s attention
only to watch you crush my hopes and dreams.

I never believed
foolishly we would find ourselves here
at love’s end.

I never believed
the world around us would intervene
and I’d lose you.

I never believed
you had my courage like
fearless screams in a windstorm.

I never believed
leaving our hearth and
love’s loss was a solution.

I never believed
my soul could sing her heart out to you
and not be heard.

I believe
my soul heard your heart’s discontent.

I believe
my heart saw the ever present ridge between us.

I believe
my bones felt cold as soon as you entered a room.

I believe
the sweetness we tasted was left stale.

And, I believe my soul wasn’t heard

Thank you Raquel for this beautiful piece!


She – Original Poem

She maybe the reason I exist
The warmth in winter bliss

She is the feeling I deny when life has cast a shadow over my dreams
She is the inspiration over a cloud of uninspired
She is the safety on my climb to the unknown

In an instant I found pleasure in her kiss
In its lustful simplicity and moist tenderness I rest my lips upon hers

To touch the soft curves of her body; my fantasy

She is right for all wrong; the hidden treasure in the vast blue sea
She strengthens my soul with each word bedding my state of being

It is now I can rest on this satin bed of nature curled in her arms
Feeling her breath against my still frame; I am at peace

She maybe the reason I can love
She is the essence of all above
She is the power from within
She is cast of all prior sin

In the heart of all that is right, I found her alone in the night
Now with every step I take, she is with me for all time sake


Melancholia: A Emotional Journey Into Ourselves (And a Must See Film)

It is rare that a movie penetrates so deeply into your soul that it lingers within your senses long after you depart the theater. I move with such raw energy that it swallows you up, spits you out and leaves you alone to pick up the pieces and analyze the importance of what you witnessed.

Melancholia, told in two parts, Justine and Clare to the score of Wagner’s Tristan and Isolde by Lars Von Trier is a film psychology opera wrapped in the backdrop of a science fiction story line. With poignant performances led by Kirsten Dunst and beautiful cinematography and hand held camera realism, Melancholia goes much further than the expectations of the audience.

The movie opens with a subtle blend of humor, romance and character development that brings two families together for an extravagant wedding. Lavish in setting and cost, this union of two young lovers is wrought with the demons of family and the deeper bond between two sisters, one with a passion for life and happiness and the other with a struggle with extreme depression. The depression is so intense that it flirts with a mental illness and an inability to feel.

The relationship of the two sisters becomes so critical to the story that as we grow closer to the stunning conclusion, their differences will collide and have the audience thinking much more closely about themselves.

In it’s perfection, the movie is flawed. Soft and subtle scenes bring an artistic flavor while still maintaining that we are inherently damaged.

As Melancholia, the planet, comes closer to the Earth and this beautiful ball in the sky lights up the night like a strobe from Heaven, Justine makes a spiritual connection to the planet that is on a course for Earth. She lay naked on a rock at the edge of a stream absorbing its energy as she feels her soft silken skin warm in a celestial exchange. During this marriage, Clare witnesses this transfer with concern. This is a divided concern as part of her weeps for her sister’s condition while the other part is dreaded fear for the possible apocalypse.

Justine’s illness heightens other senses. Through her emotional numbness she can become one with this planet staring down into our own mortality and sense the impending doom along with the stable horses whose unrest plays into the background of the second act.

During one of Justine’s and Clare’s horse rides, the camera follows their journey as they race the path through the fog and create a metaphor of the struggle to emotional supremacy, each passing one another back and forth as they unconsciously deal with the expectation of this possible annihilation.

The movie begins with the union of two young lovers who are about to embark on a new life together without any chance of success. Knowing the obstacles and challenges they must face, they took on this opportunity while both knew its inevitable failure. Acceptance of failure or denial of truth are two struggles and we are forced to decide a path. It is the path of acceptance vs. denial and fear that each of us faces in our own mortality.

The end is not relevant as we will all face the final outcome. It is the choice we make in acceptance of possibility. Can we suspend reality and see beyond this life on earth?

“We are alone” Justine tells Clare. Clare believes there is other life, but Justine is certain we are alone on this Earth and it is a short time we have on this Earth.

There is such intense moments between Justine and Clare that manifest and grow as the movie progresses. Act one, we accept as an audience the flaws of the sisters. Act two, we begin to see how these flaws overwhelm and dictate the actions of the sisters. The key to this development is the isolation element presented.

During a potential apocalypse, there are global ramifications, but this movie is set in a remote mansion overlooking the ocean with no outside forces to influence the actions of the main characters. It is this isolation that humanizes the setting, the dialogue and the actions.

Fate is in our hands until the moment when we lose control. Gaining back that control is predicated on the ability to control emotion. Action is weakened by emotion. In the end, can we be jealous of the highly emotional sister who yearns for happiness and family or the emotionally stunted sister with an inability to feel any form of joy. For many, elements of both are within us. Maybe the sisters were in fact the creative mind of Von Trier who was able to take his own state of being and create two entirely different characters.

With a stunning use of still live shots, beautiful scenery, a wonderful story and characters that strip themselves to mental and physical nakedness, Melancholia is a memorable movie going experience that will shower your senses and leave you dripping for days.


I used to believe in Scientology and didn’t even know it…

Fifteen seasons ago, prior to the highly anticipated debut, I was one of the first band wagon South Park fans. After all, they took the basic premise of common sense, looked at how people skew the obvious and taught us weekly lessons from the eyes of four extremely obnoxious third graders. They didn’t riddle us with deep Aaron Sorkin type dialogue or amaze us with expensive stop animation. Their characters were simple, the stories were topical and the memories were priceless.

Over time, life got in the way and I slipped away from my weekly routine of checking in with Cartman, Kenny, Stan and Kyle, but have slowly found some nostalgia with late night syndication.

Having realized that I have yet to see one of the most controversial episodes of all time, the infamous Tom Cruise Scientology episode, I thought it time I sit down and view it. It was all I expected and more. As I watched comedy genius at work, I began to reflect on my own youth and remembered a time, where I in fact, believed in a form of Scientology and I hadn’t even read Dianetics by L. Ron Hubbard. Believe me, I saw the commercial enough though.

As a youth, I was presented with the idea of evolution and the idea of the Old Testament (Creationism). I had a very creative mind, but also was grounded with a bit of realism as well. How could Adam and Eve start humanity and all existence on Earth and have micro-organisms come from the ocean and evolve to current species?

I know, right. Baffling. There had to be some explanation.
Either one was wrong and one was right, both were wrong, or both were right.

Darwin…Creator of the Universe…My mental dilemma was growing. There had to be a logical answer to this quandary. As a sleuth detective at age 8, I was going to figure it all out.

Then it hit me. The answer to all answers. Both were true!!!!

Adam and Eve and the Garden of Eden did in fact happen but on another planet in another galaxy. Yes, Yes, Yes. We are not natives of this planet but another planet that was developed and then due to overpopulation or some Superman affect and the planet was blown up, we had to re-populate and start over on another planet.

So in order to adjust to the changing weather, atmosphere and climate of this new planet Earth, there had to be an evolutionary process to adjust all the living components once again.

There we had it. I solved the greatest mystery of mankind and I wasn’t even ten years old yet. Both creationism and evolution were true.

I believed in a form of a Scientology. Now times have changed of course. Tom Cruise and John Travolta movies starting getting worse, Battlefield Earth…Do I need to say more, and the brash silliness of my theory become less plausible.

But for a moment during that one fateful summer, I deduced the impossible. I answer the question that has rattled society for hundreds of thousands of years.

“Growing up happens in a heartbeat. One day you’re in diapers, the next day you’re gone. But the memories of childhood stay with you for the long haul. I remember a place, a town, a house like a lot of other houses, a yard like a lot of other yards, on a street like a lot of other streets. And the thing is, after all these years, I still look back, with wonder.” (Yes I stole that from the final scene of the Wonder Years)

It is funny how amazing the imagination of a child can be. Never hold back your children. Let them think free, act free and see the world from their eyes. It is those eyes that will change the world someday.


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