How do I define the complete me? I think in order to do that, I need to break down the components of myself.
Let’s start there.
I am:
Family centric
Balance work, exercise and diet
Passionate about writing and my career
Believe in equality, individual choice and dreams
Focused on travel, understanding other cultures, books and films that make me think, black and white photography, unconditional friendship and creativity
Devoted to pursuing a life of happiness
Proud of my heritage
Love music
Now that we finished my dating profile, let us look at what I have done to invest in myself:
Published two complete collections of poetry, have a third on the way, five screenplays and a novel in the works
Continually looking at new trends and changes in my industry and how to evolve and growth with them
Never putting my friends or family second to anyone
Using the resources I have to help others when I can
Developing a strong brand to share my written and visual messages with others
Am I doing everything I can to reach my goal of happiness?
That is quite a question. One that truly may take a lifetime to answer.
Let me see if I can outline some areas I am not:
I don’t expose myself enough. I can go to book readings, writing groups, enter more competitions and send my works to agents to try and get more exposure
I can take more risks in my career. Sometimes fear whether we see it or not plays a role in the choices or lack of choices we make
I can travel more. I have been to Europe, Mexico, Alaska and most of the continental US and I have the resources to see so much more. I need to do that.
I can spend more time talking to my family and spending good quality time
I can spend less time writing about dreams and more pursuing them
I can love more
I can find more balance with yoga, mental and physical exercise and learning things outside of my comfort zone
That was refreshing.
I love who I am and that is a person who is flawed with a good heart, devotion to friends, families and strangers and someone that is looking to always think positive and continue to grow.
I think the bottom line is, I need to invest less in the laptop and more time to myself and the 26,000 amazing miles of frontier at my fingertips. It all has to start with one simple step.
I will begin with the disclaimer that this is a true story. All information shared in this tale is true and not one thing is made up. All information has been documented and archived.
This story was shared with me last evening when I mentioned I had purchased a horse named Skippity Dippity as a going away present for a friend moving away in a few short weeks.
Here is her story:
When she was a child, her and the other grand children loved to sit and listen to Grandpa. He told the most amazing stories. Glued to his every word, the children would listen intently and absorb the wonder of it all. One day Grandpa told the story of Bloomers the horse. Of course the curious minds of the children took over.
What color was Bloomers, one grandchild asked.
Blue, of course, replied Grandpa. From that day on, the grandchildren shared in eager excitement to hear the tales of Bloomers the Blue Horse.
Bloomers was a horse of courage, strength and leadership. As the stories were shared from the elder wise man to the young impressionable children, Bloomers was part of the Allied efforts in World War I, World War II, Korea and finally came to his demise in Iraq. Along the way, he was a fire horse pushing the old fire trucks and my personal favorite, a lead horse on the pony express.
I know you are doing your historic math right now and thinking how can one horse live during the 1800′s and the pony express and not die until the late 20th century? The answer is easy, because Grandpa said so. Don’t forget Bloomers was a blue horse so there must have been something magical about him that allowed him to give selflessly during these challenging times in our history.
Grandpa finally passed away one day and with that his stories were silenced but never forgotten. On the day of his viewing, between the early and late scheduled times, the grandchildren bonded together and went to Walmart in search of a sign. They looked for something to assure them that Grandpa was in a safe place. In the toy section (because where else would children go), alone in a little caged shelf was a blue stuffed horse. They were in awe. It was Bloomers. This wasn’t a designer or name brand blue horse. This was Bloomers. This was the message sent from the angels.
The children knew what they had to do. They had to bring Bloomers back to the funeral home and give him to Grandpa. They rushed up to the cashier and pooled their money together to buy Bloomers so he could be side by side with Grandpa for all eternity. When they got back to the funeral home, they circled the casket with excitement. I am sure to most observers this looked a little strange.
Where to put Bloomers?,they thought
They didn’t think his chest worked or by his head so they decided to rest Bloomers right in his hand. A few minutes later, Grandma noticed and yanked Bloomers out of the casket. She raised her voice and explained that Bloomers would not be buried with Grandpa, It was disrespectful she said.
Saddened once again, the grandchildren went outside and sat alone feeling they failed Grandpa.
They didn’t.
Today, Bloomers is with Grandma and it is shared and played with by all the nieces, nephews, grandchildren and great grandchildren that come over to see Grandma.
Grandpa did end up with Bloomers and every time a child plays with Bloomers, a part of Grandpa is playing right along side with them.
Remember, never stop listening to the stories of our grandparents. They never lie and they tell the most amazing and memorable tales.
I am seeing posts all over the social spectrum with banners about 12-12-12.
Portal of awareness
Remembering who we are
Shift in the collective consciousness
Be ready for expansion
The last time we will see a triple date in our lifetime. Would you do something to make your day unforgettable?
It’s a once in a lifetime event
Like most days that the media and social viral nation promotes, is it more about representation than action.
Yes, today is the well anticipated Sandy Relief concert and there will be as many weddings and proposals today as New Year’s but once again, today is another day carried forward by seconds, minutes and hours. From morning to dusk, most of the world will continue on its path of mediocrity, living a life of consistent patterns.
When do we normally see a life shift? That may be the first question we should ask ourselves.
Typically a major life shift happens shortly after:
A natural disaster
Loss of a loved one
Birth of a loved one
Major life move
Loss or gain of a job/career
Transition in life (graduation, marriage, lottery win)
Why not have awareness of a change that isn’t driven by a life changing catalyst? Each year, many of us create our New Year’s Resolutions. For some it is a joke and for others it is a conscious attempt to change for the better. Most focus on weight loss, new job, being happier or finally starting that bucket list.
I may be the minority opinion about change as I am constantly focused on goals and effective personal, mental and spiritual growth.
I thought about this day and the impending end of the year or world, whichever decides to manifest itself and looked at how I have changed others in the last few months. Sort of my own path of inspiration.
Here is what I did…
Sent some random gifts from the heart to friends for no reason
Donated clothes and other items to Goodwill
Spent quality time with my father shortly after Sandy
Spent three months by the bedside of a dying friend and spoke from my heart at her funeral
Scaled the cliff side of Niagara Falls to see the true beauty the world has to offer
Made a snow angel on the first snowfall of the season
Visited my best friend shortly after the birth of her second child
Gave money to my brother who had nowhere to turn
Lend a friend money to help secure a new home
Helped several people get on the path to finding a new career
Helped a friend move when I didn’t want to see her go
Volunteered at a pet shelter
Tried to bring hope through my words
Was not afraid to say “I love you”
I feel like I have made a difference to a number of lives, including my own. Life is a powerful gift with a tremendous amount of responsibility. If we ignore the power, it lies dormant and the energy fades.
We have the ability to light the flames and channel this enlightenment. Life cannot be about short moments of giving or forgiveness because a holiday represents it. It is a continuous journey and we cannot stop moving forward.
When married, we take a pledge to love and honor for better or worse for the rest of our lives.
It may not have spoken it out loud, but to me that pledge is recited at birth.
Not just to respect and honor your partner but all of mankind.
What does 12-12-12 mean to me?
Absolutely nothing and everything.
I put as much meaning into today as I will to tomorrow, next week, next month, next year and beyond.
In a day and age where all thoughts, emotions and testimonials can be summed up into a text, it becomes ever so important to express my deep and warm gratitude to those individuals with the imagination, admiration and love to give of themselves each and every day.
As I reflect on the last year, it has been filled with personal tragedy and struggle. Nights of unanswered questions, lives lost well before their time and obstructions in the path of life.
From tears heard across another continent, to new lives being welcomed into the world, to parents watching their children laid to rest, to disaster ripping families from their homes; I have spent many a long quiet evening in a meditative state trying to piece this puzzle of life together.
Each time, I draw the same conclusion: It is in the outstretched arms of those that have continuously put others ahead of themselves, who have greeted every challenge with passion and hope and been that shoulder to lean on that I need to personally thank. Not due to a holiday or an end of the year need to repent, but because they are the foundation of this wall that provides me shelter from the storm and fuels my drive.
I thank you
I thank you for being patient with me when I had to make many sacrifices to be by the bedside of a dying friend.
I thank you for emotionally being by my side and relying on me even though an ocean separated us
I thank you for allowing me to bear witness to your life changing events
To those that called, emailed or sent a picture or cute message at the most opportune time when I really needed it, I am eternally grateful
I am not perfect, a scholar or always a gentleman. I have flaws and for the few that understand and accept me, words do not say enough about how important you are in my life
Some have been unconditionally supportive to me through my writing, my vision on life, my creative ups and downs and for that I bow to you
To you, the one that finds inspiration in my writing and acts upon it with a closer hug, a warm message of love, a charitable act or seeing life with a little more happiness, you are my reason for living
Sometimes, I lie out on the beach or an open field gazing upon the stars vast in the sky that reach infinitely through the cosmos. Right at the moment it begins to sink in how small we are in the scheme of the universe, memories rush through my head. Good refreshing memories that put a smile on my face. They are visual images of times I have spent with you; all of you. Each person that is important in my life has an equal piece of my heart and as you have and continue to shape who I am, I hope my actions and my words help you understand how you have given me all a man could ask for.
To my family and friends, your love continues to give me strength and energy. Thank you.
In the blink of an eye our world changed
Winds of change took away our homes, our memories, our keepsakes
White picket fences and the American dream destroyed in an apocalyptic rage
From the pits of hell, a path of desolation and havoc cleared brought us to tears
With the strength of a thousand horses, we were brought to our knees
Praying to voices above in hopes the clouds would part to open up its arms to a new day
Wandering the streets looking for answers
Devastation a word without definition
Searching for answers under the rubble
A vision of a war zone in the land of the free
We raised our arms to the sky with strength and unity
Jersey Strong in our hearts
Jersey Strong our will to survive
Jersey Strong the power to rebuild
In the darkest hour, a light began to shine through
Walking out of the muck and mud we began to cleanse our soul and fill our hearts with the love of the brotherhood of man
Kindred neighbors close and far have united to form a wall of fortitude with one message, “We will rise again”
One nail at a time
Lending one hand; a reassuring smile; a hug
A promise of a better tomorrow
Jersey Strong
One family, one mission, a commitment, a goal
Down from heaven she came
A second gift sent from the clouds
Natalie, her name, written with love in the sky and nestled in our arms
A reminder of the purity and solidarity of family
Without a word spoken, her presence speaks volumes
Warmth in her touch
Gentleness in her tears
Simplicity in her smile
Curiosity plays tunes in her mind as a new world awaits
Large beautiful eyes filled with passion and hope
At peace and tranquil in a world of beautiful chaos
Natalie is the final puzzle piece to a family now solidified with affection
Now brother and sister play
Protecting each other from world ahead
As mom and dad look on with pride
Dreams in the playpen
Laughter is the music of the home
A princess born from the flower garden in heaven and gently delivered to her home from the hands of the Lord
With nurturing of love, she will blossom into an empress full of fervor and energy touching the lives of everyone in her path
As we extend our hands and embrace, we are a family of four united as one
LOVE ME TENDER! A BIRTHDAY TO REMEMBER FOR MARY K HICKLE
Wow! This took some planning. Mary Katherine Sanders Hickle turned 90 years young last Saturday, July 21, and partied all weekend to celebrate. Mary Katherine (Mary K.) was born at home on July 21, 1922, in Laurel, MS, to James Wilford Sanders and Bonnie Mae Norman Sanders. She finished public school in Laurel, received a degree from Jones County Junior College and although her family moved to Memphis, she stayed in Laurel to work as a bookkeeper at the bank.
She met her husband, Lyman Leroy Hickle, while volunteering at the USO, married in 1945 and moved to Ohio. Widowed, she decided in 2002 to come south and live in Davidson close to her only child, Linda Hickle. She “hit the ground running” and in no time had a new circle of friends through neighbors in her Deer Park area, her church family at Huntersville Baptist Church, her Women’s Circle at DUMC and the Cornelius chapter of the DAR – and all groups were well represented at her birthday parties!
Elvis dedicated “Jailhouse Rock” to Davidson’s men-in-blue including Scott Misenheimer, party escort, of course!
Nine decades of birthdays have not slowed Mary K. Hickle one bit! She is a big NASCAR fan, especially fond of Michael Waltrip (she was there when he opened his Race Shop in Cornelius), and took some fast laps with a driver at Lowe’s Motor Speedway for her 85th birthday. (She wanted to go 185 mph. around the track to add her age to 100 mph. but the driver was only allowed speeds up to 165!) Mary K. is also a BIG Elvis fan so her daughter took her cue from “Elvis” for the 90th birthday bonanza.
Mary K.’s birthday weekend started with a dinner on Friday, July 20, at the North Harbor Club for her immediate family coming from Clarksville, TN, and Louisville, KY. Daughter Linda promised a quiet lunch at Sabi on Saturday and when Mary K. arrived (with police escort), a room of 100 well-wishers at the Asian restaurant surprised her with cheers and birthday greetings. The theme was “Elvis” and not long after Mary K. recovered from being “All Shook Up” and settled into her “Queen’s throne,” Elvis appeared in his rhinestone suit to croon a few tunes to his favorite birthday gal.
Elvis started with “Love Me Tender” and soon honored Davidson’s Men in Blue (Scott Misenheimer was the birthday escort) with “Jail House Rock.” He ended with Mary K.’s favorite hymn, “Amazing Grace.” Linda Hickle had her very own six girlfriend TCB Band decked out in sun glasses and sideburns (remember that Elvis’ band was TCB – taking care of business) to see that all the guests had name tags and signed the memory book. Grilled peanut butter and mashed banana sandwich (Elvis’ favorite with the recipe on each guest’s napkin) were also carefully prepared by Sabi (bet they don’t have that on the daily menu), and cake and ice cream were enjoyed by all.
On bended knee, Elvis presented Mary K. with flowers
When Elvis finally “left the building” and the crowd dispersed, Mary K. enjoyed a dinner at Sabi with her daughter, family and close friends. The party continued on Sunday morning with a brunch for 25 guests at Mary K.’s home which lasted well into the afternoon. Seems you can’t wear a 90 year old out! As the name tag stickers read, “Still Rockin’ at 90!” We congratulate Mary K. on her birthday and send best wishes for many, many more. Bet Linda is already thinking ahead to another milestone birthday but it will take some real creative thinking to top her mom’s 90th! What fun!
As I browsed through the wall posts this evening, the one common theme throughout most of the pictures was family. Whether it was on the boat, at the beach, in the pool, by the grill or just playing in the yard, the day’s memories shared are those of families sharing in celebration.
Yesterday, I had the fortunate opportunity to be on the America’s Dream Team radio show out of Lincoln, UK (www.sirenonline.co.uk or on 107.3FM) to talk about July 4th and the question was posed to me, “What does July 4th mean in the states?” After a moment of thought, I stated that in the end it is about family. Yes there is grilling, beaches and fireworks, but like Christmas, Easter and other significant holidays, it is one shared with family and friends.
America is an incredible country that is built on so many freedoms that we often take for granted the level of peace and acceptance we have all around. Today is a day not only to celebrate but to reflect and truly understand the importance the struggles our forefathers made and the sacrifices our soldiers and statesman continue to make around the world so we and our children can continue to celebrate each year.
Independence Day is a symbol of all that we stand for. Through the music, movies and tapestry of flags flying from every home, we are surrounded with a beautiful shower of red white and blue.
I was able to spend today with family in person and by phone. When I think of my special holiday memories, they aren’t crazy over the top risk taking events, they are the simple times shared with the people that have always been important to me.
Today is no different.
I am proud to be an American
I am proud to be a son
I am proud to be a friend
I am proud to be an uncle
Most of all, I am proud and honored to be free.
Today is our Independence Day. A time to shout to the moon and rejoice in all we have as the rockets red glare in the sky.
I hope each and every one of you had an amazing day that you will remember always.
If heaven can be anywhere, why not here
If the gates of eternal rest are a utopia formulated by faith and belief, why not here
A juxtaposition looking at heaven and earth side by side
How can we fear death if faith has led us to believe in this perfect infinite paradise of rest and redemption?
In a world saturated in laughter and love, we have found a place to call home
Born, adopted and discovered, we are surrounded by a circle of devotion, yet we continue to be infatuated by a journey we fight so hard to stop
We are on a collision course to inconclusiveness
A puzzle of unpredictability leaving behind a world of validity
Looking back we hold on tightly to the memories that have fortified our foundation
It was the mistakes that strengthened our will; the passion that made us feel; the triumphs that leaped us to the next level
How do you define heaven?
Why not here?
We live in a world created by the ruler of universe made up of beings formed by his hands
If this is the perfect habitation, why not here?
Birth is the beginning of the demise to the end
Philosophy will analyze; religion with set forth credence; love will soothe the unease but as the final moments arrive, ask yourself not are you ready, but why not here?
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So You Think You Can Interview - ProNet August, 2010 Personal Branding and Social Media Resources - ProNet June, 2010 Personal Branding and Social Media Resources - Lee Hecht Harrison July, 2010 Personal Branding and Social Media Tooling - Lenova Women in Leadership September, 2010 Your Life Bag - ProNet October, 2010, The Effects of Social Media in the Workplace - Carolinas Payroll Conference November 2012
Published Author
Sonni's Abyss (June 2008)
A Beautiful World (February 2011)
This Time Around (Scheduled for February 2013 Publication)